If this is a partial representation of your life, then it’s time for a change.
Whoa, STOP! This is why so many people can’t bare to be present in their life and feel forced to medicate to get through the day. You can change this path of self-destruction. When you are ready, you will need effective tools that empower you to successfully create change.
Are you are ready for a drastic change? If so, then take advantage of the following tools to gain control of your life.
It reveals important mental and physical historical data, as well as trigger points to be reprogrammed, so an issue can be managed and/or overcome. Self-assessments also highlight what you have experienced and where you are now, plus illuminate how you can get to where you would like to be. They help you organize and prioritize your life, so you stay focused.
Ultimately a self-assessment helps you gain a deeper awareness of yourself, enabling you to break free from limiting beliefs and habits.
The process requires that you:
1. Detach from yourself
2. Analyze yourself regarding the fundamental issue being addressed and goal to achieve
3. Organize and prioritize your personal findings, based on their effect on the issue
4. Analyze again and identify adjustments that will help you meet your goal of the assessment.
NEXT, establish your self-agreement by defining measurable and achievable goals. Set milestones and deadlines relative to completing an entire goal.
Is a pact with yourself to take action and resolve a challenge. The agreement must include a detailed achievable goal and deadline. The goal should be measurable and specific, not broad or open-ended. This way the agreement will be focused and guide you to accomplish what you want in a specific timeframe.
The challenge is putting in the same effort to create and follow your personal goals as you do when creating and following your work goals. Slacking on yourself is a disservice. To improve your chances of achieving your goal, try creating a more substantial self-agreement that includes a goal-oriented action plan with milestones and accountability strategies.
Many goals are not achieved, because they lack specificity and deadlines. Furthermore, goals sometimes need to be adjusted during the process of pursuing them. An accountability strategy with reminders and agents help you manage yourself and make it easier to stay the course.
Are trustworthy people who check in on you to hold you accountable for achieving your milestones and goals. You should select a supportive person who is willing to encourage you. Be clear and tell the agent exactly what you would like them to ask you on a specific date and/or at a specific frequency (e.g. monthly).
In addition to your scheduled milestones and goals, help you hold yourself accountable. They should be proactive and keep you focused on your goal. Some tactics include:
Scheduling reminders to check-in and revalue a goal, ascertaining if it is still appropriate for accomplishing what you desire.
Posting written and digital reminders that encourage maintaining a specific thought and action so you remain aligned with your goal. Don’t forget some of the best places to post notes — bathroom, refrigerator, car, wallet, cellphone, calendars. Be sure to periodically change locations.
Having an Accountability Agent (see below) act as a reminder is invaluable. It’s difficult to ignore a supportive person who is doing exactly what you requested.
Reaching a personal milestone is worth celebrating.
It’s natural for us to congratulate others when they accomplish a goal, but often we forget to congratulate ourselves. Quite frankly, it’s more important to feel proud of yourself, than hear congratulations from others. Sure the congratulations from others feels good, but the best feeling comes from personal pride in your ability to successfully accomplish dreams and desires.
So when you do reach a milestone, revel for a moment with self-satisfaction and self-appreciation. You may even choose to do something special like treating yourself to a massage or celebrating with friends.
Not everyone needs the help of a professional. However, there is nothing wrong with receiving support and guidance from a professional. If you feel you can’t do it alone, desire expert support, or just want to expedite developing an approach that should work for you, then meet with a professional. Be sure to chat with the professional first to see if the chemistry between you two is a good fit. Then be open minded and let the professional help you accomplish your goals.
Get Control Of Your Life
Making a change when you are knee-deep in chaos may seem impossible. It’s not. Just remember that to change from personal chaos to self-control is worth every ounce of courage and effort. You are the most important person in this world. Why not put in the work to shift from chaos to control? You deserve to enjoy life. Let your change begin now!
Wishing you happiness.