I mean it, don’t fall prey to the word mistake. It is a social misnomer, and a negative word that prevents people from achieving their best.
I got off the “mistakes” bandwagon years ago, and since then I have not once used that negative word against myself.
So what replaces the word, mistake?
Instead of looking at something as a mistake, try considering it as a growth opportunity. Some key benefits of changing to this way of thinking are that it frees you up to receive more and to achieve more of what is meant for you.
Throughout my life, whenever I switched my thoughts and word choices to positive thoughts and words I noticed a remarkable shift. I felt lighter, sharper, and less stressed. Moreover, I gained an awareness of how negativity bogged me down, held me back and was burdensome to carry.
Positive Thoughts Help You
Let’s consider a swimmer in a 50 meter race. The swimmer is in first place, as he approaches the wall he thinks, “Don’t make any mistakes. Don’t forget how to turn. Don’t come off the wall wrong.” Of course with him thinking all of those “don’ts,” the swimmer is sure NOT to perform at his best. He is actually working against himself – holding himself back.
Now consider another swimmer competing in the same race. Like his competitors, he too performed strenuous workouts preparing for the race. However, this swimmer diligently practiced visualization exercises to perform beyond what just physical training begets.
Many Olympians and superstar athletes learn visualization exercises from a sports psychologist or hypnotherapist to give them the best possible mental and physical advantage. Dr. John Kappas (http://www.hypnosis.edu/aha/ppv/dr-john-kappas-collection) was a renowned hypnotherapist and founder of the Hypnosis Motivation Institute. He trained many successful athletes.
Kappas referred to visualization exercises as, “Self-hypnosis – which simply means focusing your mind toward a specific end without being distracted by the cares around you.” In his book, Self-Hypnosis The Key to Athletic Success, he discusses how self-hypnosis affects your conscious and unconscious mind, and that you are able to function perfectly normally, in full control of whatever is happening.
When an athlete practices visualizations exercises, he/she also uses positive thoughts and words related to performing perfectly. No negative visualizations, thoughts or words are allowed, since they block the mind and body from reaching peak performance.
The same goes for us in our daily lives. Negativity pulls you down. It keeps you from reaching your potential. The more you …
Free Yourself From Negative Chatter
… consciously, subconsciously, and from other people, the more capable you are of fulfilling your desires.
Ever wonder why it’s difficult for an employee to clearly explain herself when her potty-mouthed boss confronts her about a mistake she made? The second she sees the boss approaching, her brain pours out an inordinate amount of defensive thoughts. She critiques the boss’ walk, facial expression, the paper that he is waving at her … and then she hears the word, “mistake.”
If only at that moment, she would remember that the word, mistake, is not something that represents her, and disallow the word from triggering any negative thoughts and actions. She should choose to hear the word differently, and change the word, mistake, to “growth opportunity.” Try practicing this yourself.
Every time you hear, think, or say the word, mistake, immediately say to yourself, “It’s not a mistake, it’s a growth opportunity.” Then ask yourself, “What am I to learn from this situation?” Sometimes you need to learn patience, how to be honest, how to apologize, how not to get caught up in other people’s drama, how to be better at what you do, etc.
Whatever the answer, know that the more you shift your perspective from believing in mistakes to believing in growth opportunities, the less defensive you become each time you face the word. This change in perspective can relieve you of unnecessary stress, worries, and heartache.
When you are ready, make the choice (a commitment to self) to not succumb to the negative word. It’s not easy, I know. However, the struggle to shift your thought process will become easier each time you encounter and try to overcome a challenge related to that word. Be sure to break down big challenges into smaller more manageable challenges, so you may be more at peace while solving them.
It is much easier to succeed with someone supporting you. Consider telling a friend or a supportive family member about this challenge you are trying to overcome. Then celebrate the successful moments with them and share the not-so- successful moments too.
Keep in mind that societal influences are wonderful, as long as they contribute to your existing in a positive state. Living in a way that is for your greatest good is a fulfilling gift to self.