If this is a partial representation of your life, then it’s time for a change.
Today, I’m not going to spend time writing about the stress people carry every day. Instead I want to get to the nitty-gritty of how to manage stress.
One common requirement to successfully manage stress is that you have to understand who you are. That means knowing your trigger points, your reactions, and your level of desire to change. Beyond that, you have to make choices that are good for you. Choices that allow you to take positive actions versus being in a negative reactionary mode. The right choices that engender confidence in your ability to minimize, end, and/or avoid stress.
I have helped many people to manage stress and live happier using the following approach Read more…
I once asked a client, “How can you love others if you don’t even love yourself?” He bellowed, “Love, that’s such an overused word. It doesn’t have meaning anymore.” I understood what he meant.
People in his life made such a big deal of the word, love, and how and whether it is understood, that he was burned out by it. His family and friends were overtly baffled by his lack of success with love, and past lovers browbeat him for not knowing how to love. He felt inadequate and disconnected from love. Soon, he feared and loathed it, cementing his misconception of being undeserving and incapable of experiencing love.
Perhaps you too can understand why love became a confusing and meaningless word to him. For many of my clients, “love,” the word, act, and emotion is inconsistent and overwhelming. Hence, they unknowingly block themselves from it and ultimately deem it impossible. The best way to become comfortable with love and reap its benefits is to Read more…