When people endure growing pains from a “bad situation” brought on by a mistake or failure, they often succumb to negative reactions such as fear, powerlessness, embarrassment, shame, introversion, loneliness, depression, etc. When observing someone going through this process, it is easy to see how their negative choices prevent them from achieving successful resolutions. Yet when a bad situation happens to you, are you too blinded by a negative state of mind that blocks your growth?
To change negative situations into beneficial moments for growth and future success , you need to reprogram your mind (thoughts and actions) to view those situations from a success-oriented perspective. Your goal is to have a fundamental understanding and belief that “bad situations” are actually personal “growth opportunities” in disguise. Growth opportunities that enable you to be more successful and live more fulfilled. Thinking and doing from such a positive state of mind puts you in control of maximizing your life.
So encourage your own learning, by being fearless when presented with an growth opportunity to make good come from what you originally thought was bad. Let’s consider the Success Spectrum and comprehend its true lesson for success.
At the right end of the spectrum is “success” – what we all want in our lives. At the opposite end is a plethora of perceived negativity, which exists on most people’s success spectrum. The problem with believing in inadequacies (failures, mistakes, faults) is that they impair intuition and block clarity of thought, hindering the ability to detach and deduce.
To prevail over a negative challenge, you must change your perspective and accept the situation as an opportunity for growth. As Dale Carnegie said, “Develop success from failures. Discouragement and failure are two of the surest stepping stones to success.”
By reconsidering an issue as a growth opportunity, you become more adept at problem solving and improve your rate of success.
So when you make a mistake at work, learn from it and create resolutions from a success-oriented perspective. Don’t allow your creativity to be frozen by the fact that you made a mistake. You can be sure that that mistake will not go away. Instead, live in the now and ascertain your personal opportunity for growth, as well as create positive changes and outcomes for you and the company.
Consider another situation, where your employer does not renew your contract. You definitely should not wallow in the “whoa is me” mentality, worrying about the money that will not be coming in and how you will pay bills. You should garner the strength to accept that this bad situation has happened and that the quicker you create a solution the better. What you can do is recall when you did not have that contract and how you worked to secure it. Then create a list of potentials and pursue securing contracts with vigor. The growth lesson for you, besides being proactive, may be that you are to set yourself up so that losing one contract in the future will not have you afraid of falling into the red.
One final example. For the student who gets a test back with a bunch of red X’s, this is an opportunity to learn what was not fully understood. Instead of carrying the unnecessary shame and depression from making mistakes, the student decides to immediately ask for help and learns how to get the correct answers. This positive solution-based action increases resilience and maximizes growth.
Being fearless when facing what normally is deemed as negative, empowers you to overcome issues faster and with more confidence and success. The more you prevail over challenges the less fear you have solving them. Give yourself a gift and encourage your growth with a positive mindset. You will set yourself free to succeed!
Wishing you happiness.